My children played a little board game with one parent and then the other and the evaluator observed. My oldest son was 6 yrs old at the time and just learning to read. When it was my turn I had him sound out the names on the board game while we played…..The evaluator stated in her report that while playing with the father the child frowned alot…she didn’t mention that he was frowning while concentrating on the vowel sounds and sounding the words out….
It went pretty unfavorable for me and was very one sided…about 6 years later I finally convinced the court to have us evaluated again…This took place at Catholic Social Services, which was the agency picked by the court.
The evaluator there talked to each child and both parents. She stated in her report that the oldest child was angered by the divorce and the teachings his mother was trying to give him concerning the character of his father. She reported that the children had been misled and taught to no longer respect their father and that I was the enemy. She recommended that my ex receive counseling.
What was ironic was that I am not the one who wanted the divorce nor was I violent,abusive, or commit adultery. My ex was the one in love with someone else….Needless to say after that things seemed to go my way a lot more in court…My advice…be yourself…don’t lie or act….and interact well with your children…..No matter the outcome…you are still one of the parents….and they need you!
What can be expected from an Evaluation? The evaluator is supposed to talk with everyone. Including my child. But that interview only lasted 10 mins.
The evaluator said that the child stated “I can’t remember” to almost every question the child was asked. The evaluator thought maybe the child had been coached.
And that was why the child couldn’t remember anything.Because the questions asked weren’t what the child was expecting.Anyone have any thoughts on this?I just wonder how much weight the evaluator will give this interview? Any one else had the same experince? how did it turn out?