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I went through one of these in my divorce

My children played a little board game with one parent and then the other and the evaluator observed. My oldest son was 6 yrs old at the time and just learning to read. When it was my turn I had him sound out the names on the board game while we played…..The evaluator stated in her report that while playing with the father the child frowned alot…she didn’t mention that he was frowning while concentrating on the vowel sounds and sounding the words out….

It went pretty unfavorable for me and was very one sided…about 6 years later I finally convinced the court to have us evaluated again…This took place at Catholic Social Services, which was the agency picked by the court.

The evaluator there talked to each child and both parents. She stated in her report that the oldest child was angered by the divorce and the teachings his mother was trying to give him concerning the character of his father. She reported that the children had been misled and taught to no longer respect their father and that I was the enemy. She recommended that my ex receive counseling.

What was ironic was that I am not the one who wanted the divorce nor was I violent,abusive, or commit adultery. My ex was the one in love with someone else….Needless to say after that things seemed to go my way a lot more in court…My advice…be yourself…don’t lie or act….and interact well with your children…..No matter the outcome…you are still one of the parents….and they need you!