By giving her plenty of rope, do you mean so that she can hang herself?
I’m afraid that’s exactly what I meant. I don’t mean to seem heartless about the whole thing. You obviously have strong feelings for your wife. I’m certainly not qualified to give love advice. I’ve helped screw up my own marriage. That’s why I’m here.
I’m also here to protect myself. Read a few of the stories on this site and others like it. There are some real horror stories out there. I hope things turn out the way you would like them to, but protect yourself just in case. It seems to me that most family courts regard men as sperm donors and financiers. If you throw yourself on the mercy of the court you could find yourself in a worse situation than you’re in now.
I don’t know, perhaps giving her rope is not the way to go. I really don’t know anything about your situation and, even if I did, I’m not qualified to give you advice. If this does end up in court I would hate to see you go in totally unprepared and unprotected. You owe it to yourself and your children to know what you’re doing if it comes to that. None of us know what the future holds, but that doesn’t mean we can’t go there with both eyes open. Good luck.